Its early

I mean, it can be 5 am for all I care, 0834 hrs is still early. I am not grumbling mind you, I am beyond grumbling. I am ranting! Anyway, come to think about it, I don't have much to rant. It was a good drive to and from Su's working place. I had a good night's sleep and I think Su did too. Sun is out and it is kind of warm. Typing this on my mac mini, and sitting on the platform in front, really is cool, abit warm and way too early, still.

I am a sociology minor right, and I am exposed to these many theories about why things are (socially) the way they are. There is this guy, Webber something, said that there are conflicts in wherever we go. According to him, it is because of our own needs and the needs of others. These needs are conflicting and thus therein lies the conflict. For example, if you are working in a company (I mean who doesn't), your needs are to earn as much money with as little effort as you can right? There are those who wanted satisfaction blah blah, but this is not about them, yet. But the company you work for has its needs to0. For one, they want the most results with as little cost to them. Thus according to Mr W, working for a company is a case of exploitation. Now, to me this all makes sense. There are times when I do feel like I am being exploited but I guess, I joined the company with my eyes wide open, and even though I feel like I am being exploited, I chose to remain. Silly I know, but sometimes its good to feel needed.

This theory of conflict now extends to marriage. Think about it, why do many people get married? Love? Companionship? Material security? These are valid reasons. Its true, but what they don't mention is why the other party, their spouses, get married to them. The spouses' reasons can be as valid as the people you talked to but most often than not, they are different, as different as being man and woman. These is where conflicts arises. And in some instances, the failures to resolve these conflicts leads to stress, and these 'stresses' if they become unmanageable, could result in the break up of the marriage, and in worst case (in my opinions anyway) the break up of a family.

So, with the two examples, one can see where I am going at. The tricky part is when you combine two source of conflicts and begin to wonder, why the hell we do it. Let me choose two areas of conflict, the company or the workplace and marriage or at home. Seeing it already? No? Ok, lets continue. OT abit, the light outside is very nice. I think I will go and take some pictures first. Ok, did that it shows the view from my room. Hey! I did not say I want to go outside!

Okok, where was I. Oh yes, conflicts in the workplace and at home. Now I can talk about men and women, but I need to go to JB to top up my petrol soon, so I will discuss about women. Now there is this lady, Stella Quah, who did some some research and stated that women, nowadays strive for better material gains and higher academic achievements. All is fine and dandy until the day they decide to settle down. Hey! We all have only 24 hours everyday, and a 9-5 working schedule has become a myth. To stay on top (not sexually speaking, but its nice ((I am a guy, mind you)) seriously), in other words to climb that social ladder and or even to have job security so as to hold on to that well paying jobs as a result of the academic achievements, its has become of a 8-11 kind of a thing. So, in this case, the needs of the women would then seemed to be the working careers. So what happened when they get married. Many, who do get married would make time for the family. But many still would not quit their jobs. I mean, who don't want a 5 figure salary, every month. So logically, time would then be split between work and at home. Those who have children are in a worse predicament!. I read about a dual role theory where women, in coping with the needs of the home and office starts to think liberatively but act conservatively. But thats another point and another paragraph. So, my question is, why do women do it! Many a times, it is their parents who encourage their children to strive for higher educational achievements and increasing their social status by earning a higher income than they themselves. Thus, if one were to have higher educational qualifications and in turn have a high rate of income, presumably, one would have to spend more time in the office and less time at home, thus logically, one would have lesser time with the family and in turn, parent child relationship would then diminished, quality wise. Got it? Thus, not only is there conflict between the women and the company they work for, but between the roles they have to play at home, between being a manager and a wife and or a mother.

O.k, will continue after I shower.